Let it piss you off.
It has sort of fascinated me, in the many places I have seen this article posted, and even in the comments on the article itself, there are two constants:
1) Women telling their stories of being ignored by doctors when they were in pain, sometimes to catastrophic effect, and finding community and strength from each other’s shared experiences and
2) Dudes – always fucking dudes, especially white dudes – coming in to the conversation to tell those women, it doesn’t matter where, whether it’s on Facebook or Tumblr or wherever, that there must have been some other reason that the doctor didn’t take them seriously. In other words, “honey, you’re making it all up.”
Which is exactly the point of the article itself.
And they are clueless about exactly what they sound like.
So if you’re thinking about commenting on an article like this, and you’re a dude, and you want to give some “reasons why” this might happen, even if you’re trying to think through solutions or talk through solutions, allow me to give you some helpful hints:
- Please, just Shut Up
- Stay in your lane, the ladies are talking unless
- Please, handle your fucking bros, because we are tired of them, and if you really want to be an ally, that’s how you can.