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  • Baby / No Baby update

    When you read lesbian baby-making blogs online, you notice something odd. A lot of them just end. They peter our, no explanation. “We’re trying again!” they announce, and then they’re gone. Just not updated anymore.

    And you know why. Because people started those blogs with a dream, and then the dream is shattered, and the blog stops. So I’m kinda glad this isn’t a baby making blog, because at least for the time being it’d be over.

    We found out yesterday that we’re not eligible for the egg-sharing IVF programme, for a variety of reasons. That puts IVF firmly out of our grasp thanks to the local NHS’s delightfully discriminatory ‘you must try 10 times before we give you a go free’ policy (which for heterosexual couples just means ten months of sex, but for us means somewhere around £14,000 spending money, whilst at the same time potentially losing income due to having to be off work.). We also don’t really have the cash to throw at another 10-15% probability IUI cycle. We could, possibly, scrape it together, but the stress involved would probably lower the chances of it working fairly dramatically.

    And so, the baby update is that we don’t have one. And have no idea where to go from here on that front. We’ve seen what adopting older kids is like, and beyond the fact that we want to raise a child from baby-ness, we also both agree we could not do what our friends have done. They are awesome, and their kids are awesome too, but the whole thing has been and is very challenging for them – and I don’t… we don’t want that experience.

    Which leaves us here.

  • you know those days…

    …when it seems that you’re touched by incompetence?

    So far:
    – forgot to charge my phone last night
    – forgot laundry detergent
    – failed to check when they start serving food at the launderette
    – forgot stuff for an appointment
    – realised I’d not actually got any change to get a drink (when I was in the process of getting a drink)
    – smashed my arm into the car door frame getting in to the car
    – smacked Kathryn in the head whilst getting a bag out of the car…

    …am now sitting on the sofa trying to decide if I dare try and achieve anything else today.

    How do you get out of this kind of an ineptitude rut?

  • S’not completely stopped me.

    One of the many things I despise about allergy season is the tiredness. This is at least partially down to the fact that normally I’d have a lie-in after night-shifts. Not a long one, but a bit of one. And I’d usually sleep until about 8. Unfortunately, in allergy season, not only do I not sleep well, but I wake up around 6:30 feeling sickly. And can’t get back to sleep because I need to take drugs and get upright.

    Beyond the irritation of, well, irritation to eyes and nasal passages, it’s irritating because whilst it doesn’t stop me doing things completely, it seems to erode my competence, it also really attacks my patience… and it leads me to want to just sit on the sofa going blurgh.

    However, irritating allergies notwithstanding, I’ve managed a fair bit today.

    First up I managed to head out and collect a package that turned out to be the HD ‘sports camera’ for our trip to Norway. Which has arrived much more rapidly than expected and looks to work except…the microSD? I’d not actually ordered that yet. So I ordered that today. I also, whilst I was out, picked up a new tip for my soldering iron. Well, technically I picked up tips for both soldering irons, the ‘precision’ one of my dad’s and the ‘not precision’ one of mine. I also did errands, for double plus adulting.

    A few days back I managed to put the new socket surrounds on the wall in the kitchen:

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    I filled and masked it all, and today started hurling paint at the trim. Two more coats and that bit’ll be done… leaving only some little bits of trim in the main kitchen area. That wall looks like it should end up being much neater – the sockets have been hanging out of the wall quite long enough.

    I need to move the fridge to get to some of left over bits of trim though, so that’ll be fun. But it may mean I finally get around to turning the door on the fridge ’round so it opens the right way. Heh.

    Painting done I nipped out to collect my bike which had gone off to be repaired after the back brake broke. They’ve fixed the brake, but upsettingly, as I mentioned earlier the cable for the rear hub-gear is broken, meaning it’s currently sat out of gear, which makes it ‘tricky’ to use. I’ve ordered a Sturmey-Archer clone cable, which I then just have to work out how to make fit. I have an idea, but it’s not ideal…

    I also spread slug pellets around the garden which is AWESOME. We currently have all the berries.

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    Which I should go out and pick, although I’m feeling a bit ropey right now (see: allergies).

    I also rang the company that’s meant to be assessing my transcripts – I checked and they were delivered on the 8th of June – but it still showed the status as ‘waiting for required documents’. Having rung them it can take up to a month for items to start being processed. ARGH.

    I am really worried that the potential job will have gone before I even get near a registration.

    Anyhow. Lunch was a Hart’s affair, obviously, then I moved on to assembling John’s 7 segment LED display:

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    My soldering, even with the new iron which actually has a tip that’s tip-y and not chisel-y (I’ve been using the same tip that my dad had on there for…ever), is no-where near as neat as John’s. It’s not terrible, by any means. But it’s not beautiful, but I guess I don’t do it that much.

    Anyhow:

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    Ta Da!

    If it works, I’ll show you. Of course, to find out if it works will require the Arduino Uno that Kathryn gave me for Xmas, so I’ve opened up the packaging and… downloaded the software.

    I also assembled the synthesizer kit that Kathryn gave me for Xmas and had a wee play with it. I think, however, it wants a new battery. As opposed to the one that came out of the garage smoke alarm because it was dead (note to self: buy more 9v batteries).

    Anyhow, so I was sat with the Arduino in my lap, and the software on the mac, and, for reasons which remain elusive, my allergies kicked into overdrive and I had to give up. After a festival of sneezing and me finally giving in and throwing the eye-drops in before I eroded the surface of my eye through rubbing, I have given in to sitting because, in all honesty, I feel cack from the allergies and I think I’ve done enough for the day.

    In other news, yesterday my Mac died and refused to come on until it’d had the battery removed. Its worrying decent into notworkitude appears to be continuing. My deal with myself is that I might, when I’ve paid off the credit card, consider buying a new (recon/B-grade) laptop. It will not be another apple. Irritating though it is to be the proud owner of Office-for-mac and Photoshop-for-mac, I’m just a bit done with the walled garden. Also, it’s not just-working anymore. If it’s not just-working, what’s the point in paying extra?

  • martinthephoenix:

    jellyfishdraws:

    this happened to me at school last week

    I hope you punched them in the face.

  • Building up one of anachrocomputer’s boards… on Flickr.

    Building up one of anachrocomputer’s boards…

  • So, they fixed the brakes…

    …and were very apologetic, because the gear cable, made from unobtainum, broke at the same time.

    I may be breaking out the pillar drill and a piece of brass or aluminium to make a BSA -> Sturmey-Archer cable adaptor.

  • FREE PADS AND TAMPONS

    dan-the-llamaa:

    graventum:

    Hey all you lovely people who have periods, the world is starting to look a little bit brighter now that certain tampon/pad companies have started to allow people to receive small kits and samples of pads, maxi pads, liner, and tampons for free. And I mean 100% free and discreet. You just have to give them your address and name, and bam! You’ve got all the menstrual cycle products you could ever need for no cost. Links below!

    U by Kotex

    Always

    Playtex

    Poise

    i expect everyone to reblog this

  • blodwymm:

    secondalto:

    gameboygirl:

    allinternationalnews:

    Colorado Lunch Lady Fired for Giving Kids Free Meals Says She’d Do It Again http://ift.tt/1JoLWZu

    from the article:

    …“I would have kids start crying when I told them they didn’t have money in their account because they were terrified of getting the cheese sandwich.”

    The district’s policy is to give a student a hot meal and charge the parent’s account the first three times they forget lunch money, communications director Tustin Amole told ABC News today. The fourth time, the student is given a cheese sandwich – a single slice of cheese on a hamburger bun – and a milk.

    …Curry felt she could not stand by and keep letting it happen.

    It’s not nutrition. It’s not healthy,” she said. “It’s wrong on so many levels, and I hated to see food go to waste. I hated to see food thrown away that could’ve been given to these children that are hungry.”

    Curry was supposed to take the students’ food, throw it away and replace it with the cheese sandwich and milk if a student had exceeded the $7.60 debt limit, she said. Instead, she would cancel the transaction and remind the student to bring their lunch money.

    Curry acknowledged that her actions went against the district’s policy and when asked why she did it, Curry said, “Because it was the right thing to do and sometimes doing what is right is not what is easy.”

    once again, under capitalism, noncompliance with immoral rules means the employee loses her livelihood. and less children have food.

    This woman is a hero.

    I wanna know what heartless ass snitched on her so I can glare at them for the rest of their days.

  • oddly-romantic:

    it’s not orphan black saturday unless you have a vague sense of forboding and an intense fear of the unknown